They hate us cause they ain’t us, is a lie.
Have you seen those egocentric, egotistic, self-glazing posts about fake friends that hate because you have any sort of success? I have. It’s everywhere on social media. From the richest loser on planet earth, to the most broke dumbass, everyone at some point posts some asinine cringe posts about them and their haters. Which only goes to show how most people are very dim-witted when it comes to them being fully self-aware of the situation the world, thus their friends and families are in. Someone with a modicum of self-awareness, self-esteem and empathy would not say this in real life towards anyone. Because they know that they would sound like a little child throwing a tantrum. So why then post it like you’re in high school? Because they got hurt, is the most probable answer. Their ego got hurt and now they have to flaunt whatever asset they have in order to feel better about themselves. So, then they go to post about their money, career, car, houses, girlfriend, boyfriend, whatever the hell is keeping their ego afloat and them going another day in this miserable world.
And that is kind of it, for them it is a coping mechanism to their pain, and to this world. And instead of doing the more meaningful thing of understanding, having empathy and being aware of the context they are in. A world with the most inequality recorder in human history. Where the disparity between the rich and the poor is immeasurably bleak. More and more people in the rich and “civilized” world feels the power of imperialism turn against them thus feeling the growing poverty in what is supposed to be a beacon of beauty and prosperity. So when you see someone post or say something like that, just know, they are not doing well. At least not mentally, morally or ideally. And it is not entirely their fault, it’s a system meant to break you, meant to give you enemies, especially if those enemies are poorer, less seemingly educated, or have any sort of visible difference in tone, skin, or culture from you. Yet it is easier for each and everyone of us to fall into this pitfall of “if they’re not as good as me, they’re lesser than”. And we need to do better.
And at the same time, these haters. Some are indeed toxic and they will drag you down and try to keep you down. I knew a lot of them, I cut ties with them and I hope to never really interact with them. And some of them are helpless, so they will not understand. But, even so, most are fine, or are trying to be fine people. Yet you have to imagine that when they are fine honest people that work an honest job, and have an honest career, and love what they do, when they make pennies for their hard and tedious work, you can’t just tell them “get a better job”, “pivot”, “change”, “leave if you don’t like it”, when that would take years, and by the time they would be done they would be in the same situation again, because work now moves faster than internet trends do. So when someone works as much as you do, and they have nothing to show for, and they feel the pressure of next month every month, maybe don’t broadcast that you have struggling friends, in a shitty world and have some empathy instead.
To have success in a world that predominantly rewards corruption, fraud, institutional theft, your success looks the same no matter how honest you got to where you are and how much you worked for that position. And you have to be self-aware about these things. Because you are lucky you got there, sure, your skills maybe helped, but where you were born, who you met, when you met them, and how all that played out, was not skill, it was mainly luck. Luck you found someone you could build with, luck nothing bad happened to you, lucky that you were in the right moment in the right place, these are things you can not control. And no amount of discipline, work ethic or anything would have gotten you were you are, without luck. If you believe otherwise, you might be a tad too egotistical. But that’s not my problem to deal with, it’s your psychologist’s, if you have one.
Don’t misunderstand me, if you have a successful friend that got there by hard work, dedication, sacrificing their well-being, time, social life, that is their choice, and there is no reason to hate them, if their work is trying to be as ethical as possible and they don’t work for evil genocide incorporated. But if that friend is a dick about their success, it is always healthy to keep them grounded and bring them back to their senses. In the end, we’re all human. Some choose to work themselves to death, some have no choice in that matter, and some don’t see the value in doing that for a world that promotes violence, corruption, division thus hate.
So in the end, all that matters is what meaningful thing you do with yourself and your life without the least minimal negative impact in this world. But for that, we need to be self-aware and try every day to be kind, empathetic and understanding of the bad, bad situation we are all in.